October 19, 2025

Lets Talk About Shame

CG Jung said “Shame is a soul eating emotion.” And I know a lot of people, especially trans people, in many situations feel intense shame. So lets talk about it!

Photo by Alexandru Zdrobău

Photo by Alexandru Zdrobău

Let me add one more quote, this time by Brené Brown: “Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.” My mother tried to raise me without any violence, in sharp contrast to her own upbringing. Instead she used sentences like “What will the other kids think of you, if you […]” to gently push me to do what she wanted me to do. Only that this wasn’t gentle. She had the best intentions, but this left deep marks on my self-worth and behavior. It took decades to understan an overcome this.

April 21, 2023

Are clothes gendered?

This is a topic that comes up often within the transgender community and sometimes is especially important to freshly hatched eggs (people who just came out). So I would like to explain my approach to…

April 10, 2023

Male privilege

I think we need to talk about male privilege as a trans femme person. This is not an easy topic for most amab (assigned male at birth) people.

October 9, 2022

Trans people are so vulgar!

Just to be clear right from the beginning - I never heard someone say this and it’s also not my opinion but I guess some people think about this from time to time.

July 24, 2022

The magical button

So here is a long overdue update. Sorry for the quiet. It was a stressful time, healthwise and professionally.

February 23, 2022

Some unexpected discoveries

So … I now had two appointments with the main therapist of the doctor’s practice and I’ll get an indication letter. Normally this would have only required one appointment but…

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