About this site

Update: migrated the website from Ghost to Publii and now to Hugo. This way I lost your subscriptions. I’m sorry that I currently can’t offer a subscription/notification service.

Update 2: this site now has comments! I use a self-hosted instance of isso. The server is hosted in Germany and nobody but me has access.

About me
I’m (at the moment of this writing) 58 years old person from Germany. I was assigned male at birth (amab for short) and I’m transgender hyperromantic pan nonbinary Femme. Oooff, that’s a lot of jargon for one sentence. Let’s decode:

• transgender: My identity is not congruent with my assigned gender at birth. I explicitly don’t use the phrase “I identify as” because it’s not about a declaration but about facts.
• hyperromantic: This means when I’m attracted to someone I have very strong romantic feelings.
• pan: I don’t care for someone’s private parts in the first place, when I’m attracted to someone.
• nonbinary: I’m neither male nor female. Gender is not a linear spectrum but sort of a landscape. So I’m not “somewhere in the middle between male and female” but just different. Also I don’t put a dash in between non and binary because this would confirm that there actually is something like a gender binary.
• Femme: This is a term also quite new to me. It means that my gender expression (how I like to look like using clothes, hair, nail polish, makeup etc.) leans quite a lot to the female side. So why do I not just say I’m a trans* woman? Would be much easier, right? Nope. Because I don’t feel like a woman. Maybe it’s a form of imposter syndrome (“I never will achieve this goal …”), maybe something else. I’ll work this out over time I guess … But for short you also can say Femme. The capital F means, this is a very strong feeling for me.