I’ve not been using a men’s restroom since September 2022. Why I know so precisely? Because in September the incident happened. It’s not dramatic, more a bit funny I guess. So lets start with the situation, shall we?
I was attending the first company retreat after Covid, a month before I officially joined the company. It took place at the wonderful De Vere Wokefield Estate. Three days of getting to know new colleagues and listen to talks and workshops.
As this was my first time as a trans person in the UK I had thoughts … many thoughts … about my bathroom choice. Not that the situation back then was as dire as it is nowadays (2026), but I decied to be cautious.
G’day to another edition of “does she really have a sound explanation for what she’s wearing?!?”
Yes, I call it #SashasOutfits.
Today it’s about color consistency and coordination. And the theme is “black and red”.
It started when I thought it would be nice to wear the black tights with red and white checks today again. So this time the starting point were the tights. Then I thought about the skirt and decided against a longer one (as I do most of the time 🤭). Since I do not (yet) have a red blouse I took a heavily waisted black one with shoulder pads and for a dash of red added a red and black bowtie.
Ok, here we go with a first test for #SashasOutfits. Main topic here is contrasting juxtaposition.
The jeans skirt is a rather rough and ‘rural’ item, especially the long one.
The chiffon silk blouse looks like it’s a leftover from last evening’s dinner reception.
They come from different spheres of life.
To make the posh nature of the blouse more obvious, I added the belt. From there the gold topic escalated quickly.
This will be a different type of bucket list. It’s not “things I would like to do in my life”, but a list of things I
need to do for different reasons. So it’s more a list to hold myself accountable. And procrastinating these things will be
embarrassing. And there are few things that hurt me more than to be embarrassed.
But be warned: there will be some rather explicit things on this list. Typical trans stuff I guess …
Here is a story I often tell about how I changed my pronouns, so I thought it’s of interest for a wider audience.
Also I don’t have to tell it anew so often, I can just point to this blog entry 😅.
As some people might know I identify as trans nonbinary Femme.
So I started out with they/them pronouns. My gender therapist has a standard preamble she uses for written opinions and assessments:
This is going to be a bit of a rant and will absolutely use some strong language. The Atlantic in 2018 had a piece on the question, if the term “guys” when used to address a group of people is gender neutral or not. Sadly this article is behind a paywall, but some people mey know how to read it anyway *cough*.
The author goes at length through all the linguistic and historical pros and cons, quoting a decent amount of specialists on the topic. Let me just summarize, that he did not come to a definitive answer.
