CG Jung said “Shame is a soul eating emotion.” And I know a lot of people, especially trans people, in many situations feel intense shame. So lets talk about it!
Let me add one more quote, this time by Brené Brown: “Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.”
My mother tried to raise me without any violence, in sharp contrast to her own upbringing. Instead she used sentences like “What will the other kids think of you, if you […]” to gently push me to do what she wanted me to do. Only that this wasn’t gentle.
She had the best intentions, but this left deep marks on my self-worth and behavior. It took decades to understan an overcome this.
This will be a different type of bucket list. It’s not “things I would like to do in my life”, but a list of things I
need to do for different reasons. So it’s more a list to hold myself accountable. And procrastinating these things will be
embarrassing. And there are few things that hurt me more than to be embarrassed.
But be warned: there will be some rather explicit things on this list. Typical trans stuff I guess …
Here is a story I often tell about how I changed my pronouns, so I thought it’s of interest for some people and I don’t have to tell it anew so often.Here is a story I often tell about how I changed my pronouns, so I thought it’s of interest for a wider audience. Also I don’t have to tell it anew so often, I can just point to this blog entry.
This is going to be a bit of a rant and will absolutely use some strong language. The Atlantic in 2018 had a piece on the question, if the term “guys” when used to address…
This is a post I wanted to write for a very long time. So here we go. The concept of passing and trying to suceed with it is fairly widespread thing in the trans community.
Sometimes things happen, that shake up your world. Or destroy a part you thought was safe of harm. Most of the time no one did it on purpose, but still it hits you out of…
